One of the most frightening things about divorce is not knowing how the custody battle could play out. Will you and your spouse share custody evenly, or will something happen that prevents you from having time with your children? Most people have heard horror stories about unfair custody arrangements after a divorce. It's natural to worry about could happen to you.
Custody is one of the most difficult things to predict in a divorce. Many factors, including not having a stable place to stay or a history of instability can impact the divorce proceedings and custody decision.
You may feel worried that your spouse will get full custody, and you'll only get to see your children on weekends. Understanding how the courts approach custody can help you feel more confident about the potential outcome of your divorce.
Connecticut courts try to work in the best interests of the children
Divorce can be quite difficult on any children in the family. There can be emotional and social consequences from a divorce that last for years or life. Typically, the courts will do their best to try to reduce the negative impact of a divorce on any children involved. One of the ways they do that is by carefully considering the best interests of the children when making or modifying any custody, visitation and support orders.
The courts generally believe that the best interests of the children include as little disruption to life as possible, as well as a healthy continuation of their relationships with both parents.
That means that they will try to create a situation with shared custody, unless there are extenuating circumstances. Abuse or addiction could impact a custody decision. However, the courts will typically reconsider custody arrangements if an addictive or unhealthy parent seeks therapy and education to improve.
Co-parenting is a very common outcome
Unless there is a situation like physical abuse involved in your marriage, chances are that co-parenting or sharing custody with your spouse is the most likely outcome.
Courts are trying to grant and uphold 50/50 custody and similar shared parenting situations to encourage shared care for the children and strong parental bonds after the divorce. You and your spouse could share physical time with your children, as well as decision-making authority in many cases.
No matter how strained your relationship with your spouse has become, you will eventually need to start working together for your children.
Perhaps you can agree, even in separation, to do your best to shield your children from the emotional toll of divorce. That can be a great, shared foundation for building a healthy co-parenting relationship in the future.