No one expects to get a divorce. We don’t walk down the aisle with the idea that we will part some day in the future. Our dream is to marry, perhaps have children and grow old together. But people from 18- 80 make the decision to split–and that decision is never an easy one.
Whether you have been married a short time or a lifetime, the two of you will have acquired many things together: property, children, and debt. Whether it’s deciding on a parenting arrangement, or splitting up credit card bills, making your own decision about your divorce can leave you both happier and more peaceful after the dust has settled.
Why make your own decisions?
Some people think that all divorces end up in court one way or another and while many do, a couple who collaborates can avoid the courtroom altogether. One way to do that is through mediation. Working with your attorney and a mediator, you can make informed choices about your future.
Mediation allows the two of you–either alone or accompanied by our attorneys–to discuss a settlement. The mediator is a neutral third party who can help you examine your reasons and emotions surrounding your preferences and enable the two of you to come to a joint, mutually agreed upon agreement.
Saving you time and money
Mediators can save time and money. Attorney’s fees and court costs add up very quickly. When you and your spouse agree on a plan, your attorneys can simply draft the agreement. And there is another advantage to mediation: No one knows the nuances of your case as well as you do.
Leaving your future in the hands of a stranger rarely leads to decisions with which you are completely satisfied. Additionally, people are more likely to abide by a choice which they have made, rather than one that is forced upon them. Choosing mediation–and choosing to engage and determine the new normal in your life–can leave you feeling freer, and more content, than you may have thought possible.