New Haven Family Law Blog

Simple tips for asking your partner for a prenuptial agreement

Tying the knot will change your life in many ways. In addition to the personal changes that are sure to come into play, you need to consider what could happen in regard to your finances.

Depending on your situation, there could come a point when you realize the benefits of creating a prenuptial agreement. While this may sound like a great idea to you, keep this in mind: Your soon to be spouse may not feel the same way.

What factors into custody decisions in a Connecticut divorce?

One of the most frightening things about divorce is not knowing how the custody battle could play out. Will you and your spouse share custody evenly, or will something happen that prevents you from having time with your children? Most people have heard horror stories about unfair custody arrangements after a divorce. It's natural to worry about could happen to you.

Custody is one of the most difficult things to predict in a divorce. Many factors, including not having a stable place to stay or a history of instability can impact the divorce proceedings and custody decision.

Do you need to modify your support decree?

Finding your feet after a divorce is rarely easy, but for some individuals it takes more time than for others. In many cases, the terms of a support decree may seem fair at first, but once you live with it for some time, it becomes apparent that you simply cannot abide by it. For others, a sudden change in income or a significant, unavoidable expense makes abiding by the terms of the decree very difficult, or outright impossible.

Fortunately, it is possible to petition the court to modify your decree, but you must follow the prescribed process very carefully. If you believe that you need to modify your support decree after a divorce, be sure that you fully understand the process and don't be afraid to seek out professional legal guidance. With proper legal guidance, you can rest assured that you're not sinking your chances of modification before you even begin.

The emotional spectrum that attends divorce

When you make the decision to divorce your husband, you might feel a tremendous sense of relief. This is especially true if there has been some level of domestic violence or control during the marriage. Your overwhelming relief is completely understandable.

What you might not realize is that there are many different emotions that you might go through during the course of the divorce. Some of these might be a bit unexpected, but being prepared for the range will prove useful when coping with whatever awaits you emotionally.

Getting married? Consider signing a prenuptial agreement first

More than half of all marriages end in divorce. While you may not want to consider that when you're recently engaged, it is impractical to avoid this truth. You and your future spouse may start your marriage with the best intentions, but life has a way of surprising people. Whether you experience job issues or your spouse eventually has an affair, there are a million reasons why your marriage could come to an end in the future.

Creating a prenuptial agreement before you get married can help ensure that you both know what to expect if your marriage does end in divorce.

Why mediation may be the best alternative for you

No one expects to get a divorce. We don't walk down the aisle with the idea that we will part some day in the future. Our dream is to marry, perhaps have children and grow old together. But people from 18- 80 make the decision to split--and that decision is never an easy one.

Whether you have been married a short time or a lifetime, the two of you will have acquired many things together: property, children, and debt. Whether it's deciding on a parenting arrangement, or splitting up credit card bills, making your own decision about your divorce can leave you both happier and more peaceful after the dust has settled.

Talking to your adult children about your decision to divorce

Google “gray divorce,” and you will come across this statistic nearly every time: Among U.S. adults age 50 and older, the divorce rate has roughly doubled since the 1990s.

A gray divorce is – you guessed it – a divorce between two people in their “gray hair years,” typically age 50 and older.

Marriage and divorce changing for millennials

Every generation in America brings about new lifestyles and traditions. The way grandchildren live compared to their grandparents is often radically different. The same can be said for the way millennials approach marriage today.  Gone are the ideas of marriage in the 1950s that involved a working father, stay-at-home mom, and a nuclear family. What's new about nuptials?

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