New Haven Family Law Blog

Signs that you're a victim of domestic violence or abuse

One of the most difficult aspects of domestic violence is the denial of victims. It can take a long time for a victim to realize that he or she is being subjected to unlawful and immoral behavior. This is especially the case when victims love their abusers so much that they dismiss or ignore the abuse as it gradually worsens.

Hopefully, the victim will eventually "wake up" and take action to either get away from his or her abuser or get appropriate help from police if getting away is difficult or dangerous.

3 reasons why you should seriously consider a prenup

If you are thinking about marriage, you should also be thinking about a prenuptial agreement. These marital agreements are becoming increasingly popular, especially for people who have already been down Divorce Road, those with blended families and others who have high-value assets, such as a business, to protect.

Unfortunately, some people drag their feet when it comes to creating a prenuptial agreement. For instance, you could be worried about how your fiancé will react to the idea of a prenup or maybe you worry that having a marital agreement will doom your impending marriage. However, these reasons for creating a prenup might be enough to convince you to get the ball rolling.

Consider these things when planning your gray divorce

Not all divorces are created equal. For example, a couple in their mid-twenties without children or extensive assets will have a much different divorce than someone over the age of 50 who owns a house in New Haven and is close to collecting a pension. In other words, if you are getting ready for a gray divorce, there are many things you will have to consider.

Taking the time to plan and examine certain details can be helpful in getting ready to move forward with a gray divorce. Here are some of the things you may want to consider when building your checklist for keeping your preparations on track.

Mediation can help you finish a divorce faster and for less money

For many married people, the thought of filing for divorce can be quite intimidating. Almost everyone has heard horror stories about how divorce can end up lopsided and unfair, even when the courts determine the outcome. You may also worry about dragging your kids through a protracted court battle with your spouse. If you can't agree to terms about asset division and child custody, you may believe a court-based divorce is your only option.

Before you prepare yourself for a drawn-out and contentious divorce, you may want to consider mediation. Mediation allows both spouses to work together to set the terms in a divorce. This allows you to avoid a lengthy and expensive court-based divorce while also ensuring that you are both happy with the final outcome of the process.

Child custody agreements vary in detail

Parents who get a divorce while they have children still living at home will need to work out a child custody plan with the other parent. In the past, these agreements usually followed a formula of one parent having primary custody while the other parent had the children every other weekend and for a couple of weeks during the summer.

The issue with that formula was the children could go two weeks without seeing the non-custodial parent. Fortunately, the flexibility of child custody agreements has increased in recent years. Now, you will need to work with your ex to come up with a plan.

Simple tips for asking your partner for a prenuptial agreement

Tying the knot will change your life in many ways. In addition to the personal changes that are sure to come into play, you need to consider what could happen in regard to your finances.

Depending on your situation, there could come a point when you realize the benefits of creating a prenuptial agreement. While this may sound like a great idea to you, keep this in mind: Your soon to be spouse may not feel the same way.

What factors into custody decisions in a Connecticut divorce?

One of the most frightening things about divorce is not knowing how the custody battle could play out. Will you and your spouse share custody evenly, or will something happen that prevents you from having time with your children? Most people have heard horror stories about unfair custody arrangements after a divorce. It's natural to worry about could happen to you.

Custody is one of the most difficult things to predict in a divorce. Many factors, including not having a stable place to stay or a history of instability can impact the divorce proceedings and custody decision.

Do you need to modify your support decree?

Finding your feet after a divorce is rarely easy, but for some individuals it takes more time than for others. In many cases, the terms of a support decree may seem fair at first, but once you live with it for some time, it becomes apparent that you simply cannot abide by it. For others, a sudden change in income or a significant, unavoidable expense makes abiding by the terms of the decree very difficult, or outright impossible.

Fortunately, it is possible to petition the court to modify your decree, but you must follow the prescribed process very carefully. If you believe that you need to modify your support decree after a divorce, be sure that you fully understand the process and don't be afraid to seek out professional legal guidance. With proper legal guidance, you can rest assured that you're not sinking your chances of modification before you even begin.

The emotional spectrum that attends divorce

When you make the decision to divorce your husband, you might feel a tremendous sense of relief. This is especially true if there has been some level of domestic violence or control during the marriage. Your overwhelming relief is completely understandable.

What you might not realize is that there are many different emotions that you might go through during the course of the divorce. Some of these might be a bit unexpected, but being prepared for the range will prove useful when coping with whatever awaits you emotionally.

Getting married? Consider signing a prenuptial agreement first

More than half of all marriages end in divorce. While you may not want to consider that when you're recently engaged, it is impractical to avoid this truth. You and your future spouse may start your marriage with the best intentions, but life has a way of surprising people. Whether you experience job issues or your spouse eventually has an affair, there are a million reasons why your marriage could come to an end in the future.

Creating a prenuptial agreement before you get married can help ensure that you both know what to expect if your marriage does end in divorce.

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