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New Haven Family Law Blog

Coping with emotions that come with a divorce

The end of a marriage is an emotional time in a person's life. Even when you're the one who initiated the split, you may still experience some of the more difficult emotions that come with the process. Learning a bit about what you might experience during the process could help you to feel more grounded, especially if you have a plan in place.

Everyone will handle the divorce differently, so be sure that you're thinking about how you're feeling and not trying to shoehorn your situation into what someone else experienced. It's easy to say what should happen, but healing after a long-term relationship ends is messy. You'll likely experience ups and downs frequently.

A modified custody plan could help you after changes in your life

You and your ex-spouse set up your child custody schedule a few years ago, and it's worked for a long time. Now that your child is going to be going to school, you need to modify your schedule, or you won't get as much time with your child.

Your ex-spouse was on board at first, but after thinking about it, they said they liked the plan as it is. They get time with your child on the weekends and through the week, but because of the new school schedule, you'll barely see them at all. You feel this is completely unfair.

Divorcing at 60, 70 or 80? It's becoming more common

A divorce is hard at any time in your life, but a gray divorce can be one of the most difficult. People who have been married for many years and who go through gray divorces could have complex situations that require significant legal knowledge and know how.

While it's not particularly common, even people in their 80s get divorced. After 40, 50 or even 60 years together, a marriage could finally reach its end. If you've been married for decades, the idea of starting over at that point might be terrifying, but if you're truly unhappy, it makes sense.

Alternative dispute resolution could be the answer for you

You're interested in getting a divorce, but the last thing you want is a long, drawn-out battle in court. You're getting older, and the idea of going to trial and airing your dispute to the public makes your stomach churn.

The good news is that there are alternatives to going to trial. If you and your spouse are willing to meet each other halfway and negotiate, then you may be able to use collaborative law, mediation or arbitration to resolve any disputes that you have.

Didn't create a prenuptial agreement? You can make up for it

For one reason or the next, you didn't discuss the creation of a prenuptial agreement with your partner before your wedding day. If you regret this decision, there is nothing you can do to go back in time.

However, there may be another answer: a postnuptial agreement.

What are the benefits of a mediated divorce?

If you decide in favor of divorce, it's safe to assume you're no longer getting along with your spouse. And for that reason, you believe that a litigated divorce is your only option.

While it's possible that your case could end up in court, don't give up on mediation before it starts. There are many benefits of this approach, including but not limited to:

  • Save money: You can typically save money by opting for a mediated divorce, which is something that both individuals are likely interested in. It doesn't mean you won't spend any money to divorce, but it's often less than if you go through litigation.
  • Save time: It's your hope to put your divorce behind you as quickly as possible. Mediation is generally faster and more efficient than litigation, which saves you time and puts less stress on you.
  • Reduced emotional toll: No matter how you decide to divorce, it will take a toll on your emotional state along the way. However, in mediation, since it's more informal, the emotional toll isn't nearly as intense. Not only does it reduce stress and tension during the process itself, but it does the same in the future. This is a big deal if you'll be co-parenting with your ex post-divorce.
  • More power: When you head to court, you give up a lot of control. At this point, the family law judge has control over the process, meaning they could make decisions you don't agree with. Mediation gives you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse full control, which is something you want.
  • Protect your children: Divorce doesn't just affect you and your ex. Your children are also in the line of fire, especially if the process turns nasty. You can protect your children's well-being by opting for mediation over litigation.

A parenting agreement can help prevent future arguments

When going through the divorce process, you expect tensions to rise and disagreements to move to the forefront. You also expect things to die down post-divorce, thus allowing you to establish a new life with your children.

A parenting agreement can help prevent future arguments with your ex, as it provides both of you with a clear idea of what you should and shouldn't be doing in regard to how you raise your children.

Divorce mediation doesn't mean you're on your own

The thought alone of divorce is enough to make you sweat. As you close in on the process itself, your level of stress is sure to rise.

Fortunately, there are many ways to ease the tension associated with divorce in Connecticut, such as opting for mediation. When compared to litigation, this is a more time-efficient and cost-effective process. Not to mention the fact that the informal setting will help put your mind at ease.

There are many reasons to ask for a prenuptial agreement

Once you decide to tie the knot, you'll find it difficult to contain your excitement about the future. However, as a responsible adult, you must consider the fact that not all marriages last forever.

The creation of a prenuptial agreement is one of the best ways for both you and your spouse to protect yourself in the event of a divorce.

5 ways to prepare your finances for divorce

As you prepare for the divorce process, it's critical to focus a good amount of attention on your finances. Neglecting to do so can lead you to additional challenges in the future.

While there is no right or wrong way to prepare your finances for divorce, here are five steps you can take to give yourself peace of mind:

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