New Haven Family Law Blog

Divorcing at 60, 70 or 80? It's becoming more common

A divorce is hard at any time in your life, but a gray divorce can be one of the most difficult. People who have been married for many years and who go through gray divorces could have complex situations that require significant legal knowledge and know how.

While it's not particularly common, even people in their 80s get divorced. After 40, 50 or even 60 years together, a marriage could finally reach its end. If you've been married for decades, the idea of starting over at that point might be terrifying, but if you're truly unhappy, it makes sense.

Alternative dispute resolution could be the answer for you

You're interested in getting a divorce, but the last thing you want is a long, drawn-out battle in court. You're getting older, and the idea of going to trial and airing your dispute to the public makes your stomach churn.

The good news is that there are alternatives to going to trial. If you and your spouse are willing to meet each other halfway and negotiate, then you may be able to use collaborative law, mediation or arbitration to resolve any disputes that you have.

Didn't create a prenuptial agreement? You can make up for it

For one reason or the next, you didn't discuss the creation of a prenuptial agreement with your partner before your wedding day. If you regret this decision, there is nothing you can do to go back in time.

However, there may be another answer: a postnuptial agreement.

What are the benefits of a mediated divorce?

If you decide in favor of divorce, it's safe to assume you're no longer getting along with your spouse. And for that reason, you believe that a litigated divorce is your only option.

While it's possible that your case could end up in court, don't give up on mediation before it starts. There are many benefits of this approach, including but not limited to:

  • Save money: You can typically save money by opting for a mediated divorce, which is something that both individuals are likely interested in. It doesn't mean you won't spend any money to divorce, but it's often less than if you go through litigation.
  • Save time: It's your hope to put your divorce behind you as quickly as possible. Mediation is generally faster and more efficient than litigation, which saves you time and puts less stress on you.
  • Reduced emotional toll: No matter how you decide to divorce, it will take a toll on your emotional state along the way. However, in mediation, since it's more informal, the emotional toll isn't nearly as intense. Not only does it reduce stress and tension during the process itself, but it does the same in the future. This is a big deal if you'll be co-parenting with your ex post-divorce.
  • More power: When you head to court, you give up a lot of control. At this point, the family law judge has control over the process, meaning they could make decisions you don't agree with. Mediation gives you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse full control, which is something you want.
  • Protect your children: Divorce doesn't just affect you and your ex. Your children are also in the line of fire, especially if the process turns nasty. You can protect your children's well-being by opting for mediation over litigation.

A parenting agreement can help prevent future arguments

When going through the divorce process, you expect tensions to rise and disagreements to move to the forefront. You also expect things to die down post-divorce, thus allowing you to establish a new life with your children.

A parenting agreement can help prevent future arguments with your ex, as it provides both of you with a clear idea of what you should and shouldn't be doing in regard to how you raise your children.

Divorce mediation doesn't mean you're on your own

The thought alone of divorce is enough to make you sweat. As you close in on the process itself, your level of stress is sure to rise.

Fortunately, there are many ways to ease the tension associated with divorce in Connecticut, such as opting for mediation. When compared to litigation, this is a more time-efficient and cost-effective process. Not to mention the fact that the informal setting will help put your mind at ease.

There are many reasons to ask for a prenuptial agreement

Once you decide to tie the knot, you'll find it difficult to contain your excitement about the future. However, as a responsible adult, you must consider the fact that not all marriages last forever.

The creation of a prenuptial agreement is one of the best ways for both you and your spouse to protect yourself in the event of a divorce.

5 ways to prepare your finances for divorce

As you prepare for the divorce process, it's critical to focus a good amount of attention on your finances. Neglecting to do so can lead you to additional challenges in the future.

While there is no right or wrong way to prepare your finances for divorce, here are five steps you can take to give yourself peace of mind:

Understanding domestic violence law in Connecticut

Everyone has the right to feel safe around the people with whom they live or have relationships. Unfortunately, many relationships with family or household members involve aspects of violent behavior, coercion or manipulative threats.

If violent, threatening or harassing behavior has been perpetrated by a family or household member toward you, it's imperative that you make sure to gain the protection to which you and your dependents are entitled.

Do you qualify for a child support modification?

If you're required by the court to pay child support in Connecticut, you must do so in full and on time every month. Not only does this keep you in good standing from a legal perspective, but it goes a long way in ensuring the well-being of your child or children.

There may come a point when you can no longer live up to the terms and conditions of your original child support order. For example, if you lost your job and have no income, you may not be able to make your monthly payment.

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